This post is pretty much a follow on, from my previous post, More Mental Health Rambling but also a (hopefully fluently written) collection of my thoughts after discussions on Twitter, about Mental Health services. What brought on these discussions was the very upsetting death of Robin Williams, the way the media handled reporting his suicide, and the recurring phrase "ask for help".
As I mentioned in my previous post, I recently had to cancel CBT sessions for various reasons; the main one being that I can't attend sessions on a weekly basis while I'm looking after my mum. I don't think I could've gone about it in any other way, because I was on the verge of being discharged for missing so many appointments (due to ill health) anyway. In part it is my doing (though I feel as if I had no choice) but I feel as if I'm left with no support for my mental health.
I'm still taking my Amitriptyline (50mg a night) for the Depression; although my pain specialist said I should be starting on 75mg per night. This is something I need to discuss with my GP soon. I don't know whether it is down to the pills, or because I haven't really got much time to think about how I'm feeling (I'm certainly trying to avoid thinking about it anyway), but I haven't had any really big, really scary dips in mood recently; where I get the massive suicidal urges (although I am still getting urges occasionally). I do still think about suicide on a daily basis, but I guess this is in more of a passive way, as I have no plans and I feel sort of safe right now. I know I'm not fine in the slightest though. I don't feel like I've improved, I just feel like I'm teetering on the edge constantly, trying to just hold on not for my sake, but for my mum's.
I do need some sort of support, but I'm just not sure what to ask for or how I could access that support when I'm unable to travel by myself and no one is available to take me to appointments if they're anytime before 5pm on a weekday. Below, are the kind of things I'd like help with/like to achieve, the difficulties I have with access, need for flexibility with times etc, and the services I know of in this area. I'll try and list these things in a clear way, although I'm aware I probably don't sound clear at all in this post!
What I need support for:
- To find a way to lessen these suicidal thoughts. They tend to be triggered when I think too much about the future, I convince myself I'll lose all my friends and don't deserve them anyway, I get too involved in political discussions or I spend too long reading about all the bad things happening in this world. It makes things feel hopeless. It makes me feel like I don't bring anything positive to anyone's life. I feel useless, guilty and then guilty again for thinking about suicide because I know there are consequences. I wouldn't want to hurt anyone, but I think I hurt people anyway, by talking about this.
- To become more motivated & have more faith in myself. Yet again, I've failed to carry on with my CBT diploma. It's something that would be quite an achievement and yet I keep putting it aside for a day when I'm feeling well enough (physically and mentally) to concentrate for a decent amount of time. There've been times when I've wanted to write more blog posts, but I feel as if I'm a terrible writer and I won't explain myself properly. I keep stopping typing this particular post, and being tempted to delete the whole thing because it looks like a big mess of words to me.
- To be even more assertive. At some point, I'll have to talk to my GP again about the hypermobility, subluxations etc. It's been dismissed twice as part of the fibromyalgia, without proper assessment. I also need to make it clear that I need stronger pain medication. Finally, the catch 22 is that I need assertiveness to ask my GP for mental health support to help with (amongst all the other things) being more assertive!
- To start travelling on my own to see friends & actually have a social life. The Fibromyalgia makes it very very difficult to travel for long anyway, and I don't feel safe on my own when I'm extremely dizzy, nauseous, weak etc, but a big reason why I don't travel alone is because it terrifies me. I get extremely self conscious and nervous just walking out my front door. If I need to get to the post box (just a few houses away on the same street) then I will wait until it's quiet, I won't look at the traffic, I won't look at anyone walking past me, I'll just try and distract myself by admiring peoples' gardens as I walk past. All the while, I'll be worried about the way I look, where I'm looking, whether I look nervous, whether I'm acting strangely, whether I walk strangely, just anything that could possibly draw attention to me, I'll worry about. And this is just a short walk to the post box of all places.
- To access therapy to help with my wasp phobia. This one really has been put on the backburner because it just wasn't a priority, in comparison to the suicidal thoughts. It's only really something that's an actual problem in warmer weather, when the wasps are out. I'm really trying to tackle it on my own, but it is difficult. Maybe I need to write about this in a separate blog post?
- To be able to cope with being exposed to discussions about abortion, without being (as) triggered. This is something I go into more detail with, in a previous post entitled "Am I triggered?" The last therapist I saw, said these feelings were normal and fine though (even though I said it was a massive problem for me, and something I needed help with getting through).
- To tackle the anxiety I have, related to my overactive bladder, and to stop my obsessive routine in the bathroom. If I'm not going anywhere, and I'm able to use the toilet whenever I need, I can pretty much 'go' as normal, although I will still get the bladder frequency. If I'm in a public toilet, or I'm about to travel anywhere, however, I have a strict routine when it comes to going to the toilet. This is quite an embarrassing thing to talk about, but I need to be honest. I have to 'go' 4 times. Each time, I have to wipe 10 times. If I'm about to travel anywhere (especially a longer journey) I then have to 'go' another 2 times, wiping 10 times each time again. To me, this sounds like a really unhealthy routine and I'm surprised I haven't damaged my bladder by now. I have tried so hard to break out of this ridiculous cycle, but when I try not to 'go' as much, or wipe as much, I spend the journey absolutely bursting for the loo and seriously worried that I won't get to a toilet in time. So I resort back to my routine. The problem is that sometimes, even when I've done this strict routine and feel that I'm ready to go out of the house, I still have a big urge to go to the toilet. I've been like this for a few years now and I hate it.
Mental Health Services in my area:
- Healthy Minds: A Cognitive Behavioural Therapy based Psychological Therapies service for people with common mental health problems e.g. depression, anxiety & stress. In order to access this service, you have to approach your GP first, who will give you a self referral card. You use the details on the card to contact Healthy Minds and arrange a phone assessment. The Psychological Wellbeing Practitioner who assessed you will then discuss with you, options for treatment or self help resources. If one to one therapy is appropriate, then you will either see a Psychological Wellbeing Practitioner (aka Low Intensity Therapist) or a High Intensity Therapist. In my case, I saw the Low Intensity Therapist for my first lot of CBT, on a fortnightly basis (6 sessions) and then the High Intensity Therapist for my second lot of CBT, on a weekly basis (intended to be 12 sessions, but I only completed about 6)
- RAS team/Crisis and Home Treatment Team: This service is for people going through severe mental health crises. Either your GP or Mental Health Professional (e.g. psychotherapist) will refer you to the service if they feel you need it. I've been referred once because of the severe suicidal urges I was getting. You are supposed to be seen either on the same day you're referred, or within 48 hours of referral. Someone from the team will meet you for an assessment and then will decide if you need further care from them, if the care you're getting already is enough, or whether you need to be referred elsewhere. I'm not saying for a fact that this is the case across the country, but in my case, I had to get myself to the local psychiatric hospital (luckily dad was on afternoon shifts, so could get me there the next morning) and after assessment, the nurse decided that I didn't need further care from the crisis team, because I hadn't tried to harm myself yet. I was discharged back to my psychotherapist. After that, my therapist did ask me if I wanted to be re-referred to them, as I was no better, but I felt I'd only be wasting their time, as they couldn't actually see me unless I'd planned to harm myself, or actually attempted to/had harmed myself. I wasn't given the option of having someone meet me at home.
- Expert Patients Programme: This isn't strictly a mental health service, but it does involve mental health. It is a programme involving regular group sessions to help people with long term physical illnesses, to manage day to day living and wellbeing.
- Rethink: This mental health charity offers a Community Support Service in my area. It offers one to one support, workshops and group "coffee and chat" sessions in various places around the city. Services are available from 9-5 on weekdays.
Problems with Accessing Services:
- Times available: From what I've seen, the non emergency services only run from 9-5 on weekdays. There is no one available to provide transport for me between these times. I may be able to get the very occasional lift from a neighbour, but there is no way this would be possible on any sort of regular basis.
- Flexibility with location: I will continue to check and re-check, but as far as I've researched, if it isn't an emergency then home visits are simply not offered. You have to get yourself to the appointments and missing too many will mean discharge back to your GP. If I'm not able to get myself to these appointments, then does this mean I'm ineligible for any kind of mental health support beyond medication?
- Types of services available: If I need a service that will take into consideration the impact that my physical health has had on my mental health, then my only option available is one that involves group sessions. This is simply not possible for me. My reaction to the surprise group induction at the Work Programme shows how well I cope with group sessions...
I think what is needed is a flexible mental health service, that someone can attend after 5pm. My GP surgery provides appointments from 8.30am-6.30pm on weekdays, with an extended hours service til 8pm on Thursdays. I wonder whether something like this could be implemented in mental healthcare?
There also needs to be easier access to home visits for people with chronic physical illnesses and/or mental illnesses which severely impact being able to leave the home/on their own.
Finally, it'd be really useful to have some sort of support to help me with travelling on my own, as this is clearly an issue that I need help with.
With the severe cuts to mental health services, I don't see any of this even being considered anytime soon in this city, but it is definitely needed, not just by me, but by anyone who finds the support available just isn't flexible enough for their needs.
When I see people's struggles in accessing mental health services it makes me feel very guilty about complaining that mine is coming to an end. I know I'm lucky given the amount of treatment I've had when my problems aren't even that severe
ReplyDeleteYou don't need to feel guilty about this :) Every person with a mental illness has different needs and severities anyway. Your struggles are valid, and you deserve to get the support you need. If you feel you're not ready to stop therapy yet, it could be worth talking to your GP about it if you haven't done already. When my first lot of CBT was coming to an end, the therapist was going to just discharge me to my GP anyway, until I said I felt I needed more sessions. They referred me, but for some reason I was discharged anyway and I didn't know this until I went to see my GP and asked what was going on. I discussed how I was feeling etc, and managed to get the referral for the High Intensity Therapy luckily. It's worth a shot anyway :)
DeleteBrilliant post! So much of what you are dealing with I can relate to, especially the needing some sort of therapy to enable you to become assertive enough to get help you need in other areas. In my area they apparently do some online counselling...but, you fill in an online form and then they phone you..(yes, even if in the form you have told them you can't talk on the phone to anyone except your husband & daughter because of anxiety/depression/agoraphobia).
ReplyDeleteI think some kind of online appointments for mental health would be great, even if it was just a few to give you the guts to be able to attend face to face or group (shudders) sessions.
sometimes it seems that if you're not actively suicidal then its impossible to get the help you need! I don't know what the answer is though, except WAY more investment in MH services so that they can modify the services they provide to the user.
By the way, your blog is really helpful and interesting, so when you get the voice telling you that you aren't good enough etc (I have that too, I call her my 'inner bitch' because well..she is!) then just try to remind yourself that there are lots of people out here that think your blog is interesting, intelligent, well written etc etc....thankyou!
Thank you so much! This really means a lot, I hope it's been useful :) Argh yes! I'm trying to get better with it, but I get really anxious with phoning too. Some days I will point blank refuse to answer the phone, even though it's likely to just be some appointment confirmation or something. They should definitely give the option to email instead if you have phone anxiety.
DeleteI agree :) This would mean quicker access to therapy too! I got really lucky with the waiting times for CBT. It shocked me that people were waiting over a year just for a few sessions! I know :( It's not good, and there should be better measures in place to try and help with preventing things from getting that bad. I don't want to spend years still feeling suicidal, but the therapy I've had so far hasn't helped with those particular thoughts at all. If anything, they've made me feel more guilty about having them. A big big investment would definitely be a start.
:) I really hope so, and thank you so much for this amazing comment. Hehe, yup that voice in my head is definitely an 'inner bitch'. You are more than welcome hun :) Thank you for reading!